The PATAS headquarters are on the last floor of a middle high raised building, and when having reached the roof terrace, which is a part of the address, a fresh wind welcomes ones heated up face, from the condition of the city of Manila. But fitting the title of the Meet up “Summer Kick off”, instead of the expected breeze, one was hit by a wall of heat when arriving. The summer in Manila had arrived.
Rath, thus Kristofer Velasco, has prepared a hot topic for the event, and Don Baez had prepared incites about Financial investments and concepts of different investments and Economics, which he presented after Rath’s presentation.
Human’s relationships and sexuality are strongly engaging topics, but as most people’s follow the common or mainly accepted ways of interacting, some types of human constellations are still taboo or often not legal.
The word polygamy and polyandry are, even if not widely spread, expressions we have heard here or there, yet seldom witnessed personally. This form of relationship is in many cases religiously founded. In Muslim dominated countries, it is, for example, very normal and legal, when one man has four wives.
Polyamory is the secular approach to this life style, whereby gender and gender mix is irrelevant. Polyamorystems from the Greek word “πολύ” poly, meaning "many" or "several", and Latin word amor, "love". It is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. In Polyamorous relationships marriage is not required.
There are certain myths about Polyamory, which Rath wanted to iron out in his presentation.
Peoples claim that Polyamorous relationships lack romance, but that is not the case, as all peoples are treated equally, and there is an emotional bond between the humans involved. There is a common consent of acceptance between the men and women, as they have formed their Polyamorous life with free will and the individual drive to share their lives as such.
Others are concerned about the children being born and raised into a Polyamory family, but also this has not been proven true, as the child knows its mother and father, and it just grows up in a larger family community.
Jealousy is often an issue in monogamy relationships, and that is why these in majority living peoples, would raise this question, seeing even stronger or more jealousy in Polyamory, due to the amount of peoples. Yet the answer to this is, that in a Polyamorous life, each individual does not feel to possess his or her partner, but they tend to live a way of being there for each other.
Another form of Polyamory as Polyfidelity, in where the partners, often four, are strongly committed to each other. All partners are considered equal, and agree to be sexually active exclusively within the group, just like in a monogamy relationship, where there are just two peoples in a relationship, here there is just four or any number agreed on. Polyfidelity, in some cases also called Polyexclusivity.
The biggest form of Polyamory is the network relationship. Here a great amount of peoples can be a part of it, allowing it even to grow up to an entire community. Some may share the same house together, whereby other members of the family are neighbors or even from other parts of the town or area.
It can sometimes be observed, that sex does not play that strong role in Polyamorous relationships, as the time spent together, is more focused on communication and organization. Time should be equally distributed between those partners. Sharing interests and hobbies is easier in Polyamorous families, as one partner can often not exercise all the same wanting and likes with just one partner. If one person likes playing the guitar, enjoys going to the theater, and maybe loves gardening; in a monogamy relationship, only one hobby can maybe only be shared. In a Polyamorous relationship, all three hobbies can be divided by that person, hence with three of his or her partners.
Polyamory may also carry the benefit of strong consultation. As in monogamy relationships, one partner often gives up, or loses a big part of his or her individual identity, all for the sake of the other to be satisfied. When many people’s are involved, one can consult each and the other regarding to his or her strengths and capabilities, to learn and lean on that individual.
Polyamory offers a large sexual variety as followed:
m/m f/m/m
f/f m/f/f
m/f f/m/f/m
f/m m/m/f/f
Polyamory, as well as Polygamy and Polyandry relationships, often face legal problems and challenges, forcing them to live either hidden, or without the full legal backing of the countries system, such as marriage and adoption rights.
These types of human relationships are often stigmatized as immoral, unethical or simply bad, sick or rebellious.
Finally, breaking up, in a Polyamorous relationship is the probably hardest step. As all members are emotionally attached, the one breaking up is not just leaving one partner but several partners. It is a big challenge and emotionally tearing step, when this happens.
As Polyamory is not fixed on its genders and mixture, one can count the Polyamory, in some extend, to the group of LGBT’s in society.
By Thomas Fleckner
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